Chapters: 1/1
Fandom: Good Omens (TV)
Rating: Not Rated
Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings
Relationships: Aziraphale/Crowley (Good Omens)
Characters: Aziraphale (Good Omens), Crowley (Good Omens)
Additional Tags: soft bois
Apparently, you cannot die of embarrassment, but not for lack of trying.
A good friend will always stab you in the front.
The discussion about Choose Not To Warn has me thinking about a lot of aspects of CNtW.
I want to talk about....a lot of those aspects, but right now, this instant, I want to talk about boundaries.
In the context of fandom, we understand that fanwork creators are permitted to have boundaries. Some creators do not want to be exposed to criticism of their work (and so readers who want to engage in that criticism will have crit-friendly spaces, or will refrain from tagging the author in discussions). Some do not want their work to be remixed -- at all, or without explicit permission -- so people who want to do that should ask; others issue blanket permissions. Creators draw boundaries about putting their work on Goodreads; they place it on certain websites or do not; they lock it to Archive readers or leave it public; they orphan the work; they take it down from places they no longer want it.
We understand all these boundaries and generally acknowledge that creators are allowed to have them and that disrespecting them is a jerk move.
And yet, when a creator draws the very particular boundary of “Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings”, this is suddenly “rude” and “vaguewarning” and “asshole behavior”?
This is not different from any other boundary a creator places on their work.
Fan creators are human beings who are allowed to have boundaries on their work. You might think their boundaries are dumb, but you aren’t allowed to violate them. There’s a fan creator I ran into back in the 1990s who had, I thought, incredibly annoying and dumb boundaries. You had to email her with proof of age to get a password to her stories on her own personal website. You were not allowed to link to her work, or pass on the links, or share the password, or anything. It’s been 20+ years and I still think this was a stupid as fuck boundary. I still respected it: I never read her work from her website, only when she posted it to mailing lists. I never asked anyone to link me to it or share the password with me. She was allowed to have these boundaries, even though I thought they were dumb and made my eyes roll right out of my head. I had no right to violate her boundaries, and I had no right to access to her work.
When I put work on the Archive, I need to be comfortable doing so. Anything other than “Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings” is uncomfortable and upsetting for me, and I won’t do it. I never liked archiving anywhere that required warnings, although I did it because I believed that the existence of comprehensive archives was more important than my personal comfort. I shouldn’t’ve had to do it then, and I’m relieved I no longer have to do it. It made sharing my work with others more difficult and less joyful.
Readers are allowed to have a boundary of not reading work without warnings. What they do not get to do is alter my boundaries because they don’t like that they can’t read my work with my boundaries in place.
Number of works posted: 14. Two of these were worldbuilding appendices, and another was a podfic of one of my stories, read by people not-me. So let’s call it 11.
Fandoms: Sherlock, Sherlock Holmes-Star Trek AOS fusion, Lord of the Rings, Thor: Ragnarok, Harry Potter.
Words: 68681, again not counting the appendices. Of the 11 stories, 5 of them are over 8k words. That’s a little weird for me, because I used to write almost exclusively short fiction (sub-2k, usually sub-1k).
Most comments: Numberless the ways, and imperceptible. Lord of the Rings, Legolas/Gimli.
Most kudos: same as above! Next-most is on From Sweet Fellowship Comes Nectar, also Legolas/Gimli. It’s a pairing without a ton of writers but with a lot of delightful readers.
Most hits: The two above. Third-place was an infinite series of accidents, the first story in a post-S4 Sherlock series that by itself was nearly 40% of my word-output for the year.
New territory: Almost everything I wrote this year dealt with gender issues or the asexual/aromantic spectrum, explicitly. Aside from The Silent Man (Thor: Ragnarok, Dec 2017), I’m not sure I ever dealt with these explicitly until 2018, although a queerplatonic relationship is central to all the stories in A Non-Linear Gothic Drama Hypercycle (Sherlock), the first story of which dates to 2010.
List of stories & my fav tags from them:
(if there are no tags listed it’s because the story has boring tags!)
Ship's-night, residential deck, third corridor (Thor: Ragnarok, gen, 25 Jan 2018)
Flaming Aground (I've Said Too Much) (Harry Potter, Harry/Ginny, 25 Jan 2018)
Numberless the ways, and imperceptible. (Lord of the Rings, Legolas/Gimli, 14 Feb 2018)
From Sweet Fellowship Comes Nectar (Lord of the Rings, Legolas/Gimli, 09 May 2018)
Where are we now? (Sherlock, gen, 29 Jul 2018)
an infinite series of accidents (Sherlock, Sherlock Holmes/John Watson, 26 Sep 2018)
With Careful Hands (Sherlock Holmes-Star Trek AOS fusion, Sherlock Holmes/John Watson, 20 Oct 2018)
the other side of an invisible wall (14-15 October, 2025) (Sherlock, Sherlock Holmes/John Watson, 17 Nov 2018)
saturday morning, playground, coffee (22 June, 2024) (Sherlock, Sherlock Holmes/John Watson, 20 Nov 2018)
we're not free (2015) (Sherlock, Mary Morstan/John Watson, 24 Nov 2018)
that cell collided with this one (Sherlock, Sherlock Holmes/John Watson, 07 Dec 2018)
I have an elementary-school-aged child who has some sensory issues. She and I have been struggling a bit with one part of her wardrobe — things for when she needs to be dressed up. I want her clothes to be comfortable for her, but I allllllso don’t want her to become a target for bullying for wearing inappropriate clothes to, say, school concerts.
Here’s what she and I have worked out so far:
- no trousers with buttons/zips/stiff fabrications
- no dresses
- in theory skirts are ok, but in practice dressy-enough skirts usually have itchy waistbands or fabrics
- leggings with dressy/festive patterns are almost always too itchy
- cardigans can be very fancy before they get bothersome because of the layer underneath. pullovers get too hot too quickly, though.
- tights are fine but leggings are preferable under skirts
- buttoned shirts are fine as long as they are soft fabrics
So I think what we can work with is:
- a few nice buttoned shirts (she has some plaids, maybe add a solid or two in favored colors)
- a colored cardigan (she has a black one)
- black leggings that are thick enough to read as pants (but not too thick: most “jeggings” are uncomfortable to her)
- a couple jersey skirts in favored colors
- a couple jersey tops that have details like armhole ruffles or twisted hems, or very gentle applications of glitter, but not a LOT of details
I think that if we select from that set judiciously, she will be able to feel comfortable while still looking appropriate. What I need advice on is this: IS this actually a workable, dressy-enough wardrobe that can grow with her? I am worried she’s going to be underdressed at certain occasions and feel badly about that — she’s already noticed that she isn’t dressed as nicely as other kids at various events and been upset by it. I’m trying to strike a balance here for her that she can adapt for herself as she gets older and that won’t make her feel strange in her own skin (literally or metaphorically).
Are there things we can experiment with to make her feel more dressed up? She can’t tolerate headbands or hair clips, or necklaces or bracelets. I’m tempted to let her use a little sparkle lip gloss. Maybe soft pins/brooches?
Is there some obvious clothing item that she and I are missing that might help out with this?